The ceremony
is the most important part of your wedding day. After all, that's
why you're stressing about centerpieces and head counts in the
first place. With just a little preparation, you can be sure your
officiant shares your wedding vision.
Is s/he available on the day
you've chosen, at the time you'd prefer?
This is, of course, crucial.
Can the officiant travel to
the site?
This is especially important if you're planning an outdoor wedding,
or one in a special location like a private home or on the beach.
How long has s/he been performing
wedding ceremonies?
You might also ask if there are other recently-married couples
you can contact for advice, etc.
What are the fees? What is included?
Some items might include the officiant's services, use of the
site, set-up and clean-up, candelabra and other decorations, program
printing, musicians and/or pre-marital counseling. These may be
included in one fee, or may be separate.
What type of pre-marital counseling
is required, if any?
Requirements vary greatly, and can be anything from a meeting
with the officiant, to a series of counseling sessions, to a weekend
retreat with other engaged couples.
Does s/he have a standard ceremony?
What variations can be made?
Ask if a sample ceremony is available for you to use as a guide.
If you have any special verses, readings or music you would like
to include in the ceremony, be sure they are acceptable to the
officiant. Some churches, for example, prohibit secular music.
How long does the ceremony usually
last?
This is useful when making decisions about the reception, photographer,
limousine and receiving lines.
What has worked for couples
in the past?
If your officiant is experienced, s/he will be able to make helpful
suggestions about readings, vows, music selections and even the
logistics of the wedding day.
Will s/he be available to answer
questions or give advice?
Make sure you have telephone numbers, office hours and other contact
information.
Can you tour the ceremony site?
You wouldn't buy a house without walking through it, so make sure
you get to see the actual place the ceremony will occur. Make
mental notes on the size, accessibility, and generally get a feel
for the space.
How early can you be at the
site, and what's the latest you can leave?
You may wish to decorate the site before the ceremony, or stay
afterwards for pictures. Be sure you will have enough time for
all you wish to do.
Is there a place you can get
ready before the ceremony?
Even if you don't plan on dressing at the ceremony site, it's
helpful to have a private room, maybe with a mirror for touching
up your makeup and hair at the last minute.
Is there a place parents can
take their children during the ceremony?
Kids can be restless and noisy, and having a nursery or special
room available can make your ceremony more enjoyable for everyone.
Will you be able to have a photographer
and/or videographer present during the ceremony?
Are there any special restrictions?
Some sites do not allow guests to throw bird seed, others prohibit
flash photography. Be sure it's clear what is allowed and what
is not.
When does the rehearsal take
place? Will s/he be present?
Does s/he have any suggestions
on vendors?
When you deal with weddings frequently, you meet good florists
and see the bad photographers in action.
Create the perfect wedding ceremony
with these tips from STL Weddings:
